When sex hurts and you've learned not to say so
Woman in NHS hospital bed with cannula in hand following endometriosis surgery | Therapy with Aimee, psychodynamic therapist in Surrey specialising in PMDD, endometriosis, relationships, and women's mental health
To the woman who doesn’t recognise herself in the mirror anymore
A brunette woman wearing jeans and a floral top is standing in front of a mirror, slightly out of focus and partially reflected, suggesting fragmentation rather than wholeness. Mood: quiet, anxious, a little unsettling. Not sad exactly, more like mid-realisation. No obvious distress. The feeling is: she is there, but not quite all of her, representing losing yourself in a relationship.
Why you're drawn to emotionally unavailable men (and why "just choose differently" doesn't work)
Woman lying in bed looking at phone waiting for text from emotionally unavailable partner, illustrating repeating relationship patterns and relationship anxiety.
International Women’s Day 2026
A white cake with purple flowers and purple icing spelling International Women’s Day 2026
How is it that you keep repeating the same relationship patterns (even when you know better)?
Woman sat on concrete steps wearing leggings and a grey hoodie. Her hand is on her head, representing her reflecting on repeating relationship patterns and why she keeps choosing emotionally unavailable partners
Why relationships can make you feel anxious when nothing else does
A woman sits alone on some steps with a tense, preoccupied expression, her body language contracted and vigilant, illustrating the hyper-vigilance and self-monitoring that characterises attachment anxiety in dating or intimate relationships.
Why confidence disappears in relationships
High-functioning woman with brown hair wearing a blue blazer stands in front of a computer desk. She’s starting at her phone, representing women who question themselves while in a relationship
I don’t recognise myself when I’m in a relationship
Woman with brown hair wearing a striped collared shirt looks thoughtful and uncertain, reflecting on herself in a relationship.
I’m a therapist in a loving relationship. And I absolutely hate Valentine’s Day.
A photo of a pile of Love Heart sweets in varying colours with different messages like “True Love’, “Forever” and “First Kiss” on them.
Anne Boleyn was a feminist icon: Lessons for women in 2026
Anne Boleyn portrait, feminist icon
Surrey Therapists’ Book Club: “I hate you, don’t leave me”
Surrey therapists book club meeting at Bem Coffee in Woking discussing I Hate You - Don’t Leave Me by Jerold J. Kreisman and Hal Straus. Friday 13th February 2026. Professional connection event for counsellors and psychotherapists in Surrey and Hampshire.
When you’re told “it’s just hormones” yet again: How women lose trust in themselves
A tattooed woman sits with her head in her hands, reflecting the frustration and self-doubt that comes from being dismissed. This blog explores how repeated minimisation of women’s experiences by healthcare, colleagues, or society erodes self-trust, and how anger can become a compass for reclaiming your voice.
What if you’re not overwhelmed… What if you’re actually angry?
A woman sits behind a desk and screen in the distance, holding her hand to her head representing hidden or suppressed anger and overwhelm.
The ‘strong woman’ trap: How having it all together keeps women exhausted
A woman with brown hair wearing a pink t-shirt sits at a desk with a laptop open in front of her. She is writing in a notebook and smiling softly. The image represents a capable woman who is often seen as organised and in control, linking to themes of emotional load, burnout and the pressure to hold everything together.
Surrey Therapists Book Club: Games People Play by Eric Berne
Surrey therapists book club meeting at Bem Coffee in Woking discussing Games People Play by Eric Berne, November 2025 professional connection event for counsellors and psychotherapists in Surrey and Hampshire.
Why capable women stay stuck in self-doubt (and how to finally break free)
Thoughtful woman talking to someone else reflecting on self-doubt
Why being 'the strong one' is secretly destroying your mental health
Woman in therapy session finding support for independence struggles
Therapists’ Book Club for counsellors in Surrey launching in Woking this October
If you’re a counsellor, psychotherapist or therapist in Woking, Guildford or the wider Surrey area looking for connection, conversation and a reason to finally read that book in your TBR pile, you’re in the right place.

