If you're here, you've probably tried a lot already. You've read the books, maybe done some therapy, perhaps even had breakthrough moments where everything made sense. And you still found yourself back in the same place: choosing emotionally unavailable partners, disappearing into someone else's needs, knowing what you should do but somehow unable to do it.
This work is different. It's not about communication skills or self-care routines. It's about understanding the unconscious patterns that keep you stuck, patterns that were formed in your earliest relationships and that you can't think your way out of. They need changing from the inside.
Therapy for women who keep repeating relationship patterns
You're probably holding down a great job with people around you who'd never guess how much headspace your relationships take up. You're reflective, self-aware, psychologically minded. Maybe you've done therapy before, even really good therapy, but something didn't shift.
You keep choosing the wrong person. You lose yourself trying to make it work. And even when you find someone good, relationship anxiety or self-sabotage shows up to fuck things up.
You know what healthy relationships are supposed to look like, but knowing hasn't been enough.
This work might also be for you if PMDD or endometriosis is part of how this shows up: in your body, your relationships, and your sense of who you are.
If any of that sounds familiar, this might be exactly what you've been looking for.
Who is Therapy with Aimee for?
Understanding relationship self-sabotage and why patterns repeat
I work psychodynamically and relationally, which means we're not just talking about your relationships. We're actually paying attention to what's happening between us, in real time. The way you relate to me will tell us something about how you relate to others and that's where the work usually happens.
We'll explore:
Why you keep dating emotionally unavailable partners and what draws you to people who can't fully meet you
The relationship self-sabotage that shows up even when you've found someone good
Why you lose yourself in relationships: the unconscious patterns of over-accommodation, self-abandonment, and shrinking yourself to fit
The defences you've built to survive that now keep you small
What sex, desire, power, and agency actually mean for you (not what you've been told they should mean)
This isn't advice-led therapy and I won't tell you what to do or how to fix anything. But I will challenge you, reflect things back that you might not see yourself and help you build the capacity to tolerate discomfort without abandoning yourself.
If you're stuck overthinking your relationship, replaying conversations, analysing every interaction, trying to work out what you did wrong, we'll look at what that overthinking is protecting you from feeling.
Specialist therapy for women
Therapy for PMDD
If PMDD is derailing your relationships, your sense of identity, or your capacity to trust your own mind every single month, there's a specific kind of work that can help. Not symptom management or mood tracking. Depth work that gets underneath what PMDD is exposing about you and your relational patterns.
I also live with PMDD, so this isn't theoretical for me.
Therapy for Endometriosis
If endometriosis has reshaped your identity, your relationships, your sex life and your sense of what you're allowed to want, there's a specific kind of work that can help.
Not pain management or coping strategies. Depth work that gets underneath what living with endo has done to you.
I bring both lived experience and clinical depth to this work.
Relational therapy for women who are anxious in relationships and lose themselves in love
Ongoing Individual Therapy
This is where the deeper work happens. Weekly or fortnightly 50-minute sessions, online or in person in Bisley, Surrey.
Most clients work with me for at least six months. Some stay longer. Relational patterns don't shift quickly, and real change requires consistency, not just insight, but time to practice showing up differently.
Fee: £60 per session
Group Therapy
A closed group for women. A rare space to practice being yourself, in real time, alongside other women who get it.
Group therapy isn't about sharing tips or giving advice. It's relational work: noticing how you show up, what you avoid, and what it feels like to be seen without performing or accommodating. Challenging, messy, and also freeing.
Fee: £22 per session (maximum eight women). Please get in touch for details about the next group.
Single Session Therapy
One focused session, up to 60 minutes, to get underneath a specific pattern or moment that's taking up headspace.
This isn't a replacement for ongoing therapy, but it can give you real clarity, momentum, or a reset when you need it. You'll complete a short pre-session form, we'll spend the session exploring one thing deeply, and you'll leave with something concrete to work with. An optional 15-minute follow-up call is included.
Fee: £72
Practical details
Sessions: 50 minutes for ongoing therapy (weekly or fortnightly). Up to 60 minutes for single sessions.
Location: Online via a secure video platform, or in person in Bisley, near Woking, Surrey.
Getting started: Book a free 20-minute intro call, video or phone, to get a feel for how I work and whether this feels like the right fit. Book yours here.
Fees are paid in advance via bank transfer. Cancellations require 24 hours notice otherwise the full fee applies.
