If you're here, you've probably tried a lot already. You've read the books, maybe done some therapy, perhaps even had breakthrough moments where everything made sense. And you still found yourself back in the same place: choosing emotionally unavailable partners, disappearing into someone else's needs and knowing what you ‘should’ do, but somehow being unable to do it.
This work is different. It's not about communication skills or self-care routines. It's about understanding the unconscious patterns that keep you stuck. They were probably formed in your earliest relationships, the ones you can't think your way out of, so need changing from the inside.
Therapy Services
I work psychodynamically and relationally, which means we're not just talking about your relationships. We're actually paying attention to what's happening between us, in real time. The way you relate to me will tell us something about how you relate to others. That's where the real work happens.
We'll explore:
Why you keep dating emotionally unavailable men and what draws you to people who can't fully meet you
The relationship self-sabotage that shows up even when you've found someone good
Why you lose yourself in relationships: the unconscious patterns of over-accommodation, self-abandonment and shrinking yourself to fit
The defences you've built to survive that now keep you small
What relationship anxiety is really about and how it's connected to deeper fears around intimacy, worth, and being truly seen
The parts of yourself you've learned to hide or silence in order to be loved
What intimacy, desire, power, and agency actually mean for you (not what you've been told they should mean)
This isn't advice-led therapy. I won't tell you what to do or how to fix it. But I will challenge you, reflect things back to you that you might not see yourself and help you build the capacity to tolerate discomfort without abandoning yourself.
If you're stuck overthinking your relationship, replaying conversations, analysing every interaction, trying to work out what you did wrong, we'll look at what that overthinking is protecting you from feeling.
How therapy with me works
Relational therapy for women who are anxious in relationships and lose themselves in love.
Ongoing Individual Therapy
This is the core of the work. Weekly or fortnightly 50-minute sessions, online or in person in Bisley, Surrey.
This is for you if:
You keep finding yourself drawn to emotionally unavailable partners, even though you know the pattern
You lose yourself in relationships: your needs, your boundaries, your sense of who you actually are
You've tried other therapy or self-help but the same relationship patterns keep showing up
You're done with surface-level advice and ready for deeper work that actually shifts something
Most clients work with me for at least six months. Some stay longer. Relational patterns don't shift quickly, and real change requires consistency — not just insight, but time to practice showing up differently.
Fee: £60 per session
Single Session Therapy
One focused session (up to 60 minutes) to tackle a specific issue or pattern that's taking up the most headspace right now.
This works well if you're grappling with:
A repeating relationship pattern you can't quite untangle
Relationship anxiety that's taking over: the constant second-guessing, the fear of abandonment, the hypervigilance
A moment of relationship self-sabotage you want to understand before it derails things
Overthinking in a relationship that's keeping you stuck in analysis paralysis
This isn't a replacement for ongoing therapy, but it can give you clarity, momentum or a reset when you need it. You'll complete a short pre-session form, we'll spend the session exploring one thing deeply, and you'll leave with something concrete to work with. An optional 15-minute follow-up call is included.
Fee: £72 (includes pre-session form and optional follow-up)
Group Therapy
A closed group for women who lose themselves in relationships. This is a rare space to practice being yourself, in real time, alongside other women who get it.
Group therapy isn't about sharing tips or giving advice. It's relational work: noticing how you show up, what you avoid, where your inner critic takes over and what it feels like to let yourself be seen without performing or accommodating.
If you're tired of repeating the same relationship patterns like people-pleasing, over-functioning or choosing partners who can't fully meet you, group therapy offers a different kind of mirror. You'll see your patterns reflected not just in your romantic relationships, but in how you relate to the other women in the room. It's challenging, messy, and also freeing.
Fee: £22 per session (maximum eight women). Get in touch for details about the next group.
Practical details
Sessions: 50 minutes for ongoing therapy (weekly or fortnightly). Up to 60 minutes for single sessions.
Location: Online via a secure video platform, or in person in Bisley, near Woking, Surrey.
Getting started: Book a free 20-minute intro call (can be video or phone - your choice) to get a feel for how I work and whether this might be right for you. No pressure, just a conversation. Book here.
Fees are paid in advance via bank transfer. If you need to cancel, please let me know at least 24 hours before your session otherwise the full fee applies.
You're probably holding down a great job, and have a fab group of friends. You're reflective, self-aware and psychologically minded. Perhaps you've done therapy before, maybe even really good therapy, but something didn't shift.
You keep choosing the wrong person. You lose yourself trying to make it work. You're drawn to people who can't fully meet you: emotionally unavailable men, chaotic relationships, partners who need fixing… And even when you find someone good, relationship anxiety or self-sabotage shows up to fuck things up.
You know what healthy relationships are supposed to look like, but knowing hasn't been enough. You're tired of repeating relationship patterns you can see coming but can't seem to stop.
If that sounds familiar, this might be the work you've been looking for.